Lauren Zander

How To Stop Negative Thoughts: Your Guide To Manifesting Your Dreams

December 16, 2021

Lauren Zander

For such a dark and moody species, we’re sure not wise to how often we go dark. Not to mention how little a clue we have as to where our (inner) light switch is. So why do we struggle so much with learning how to stop negative thoughts when they do nothing but get in our way?

When we are consumed by negative thoughts, we’re allowing our bad moods and worst anxieties to manifest our current (or feared) realities instead of our dreams. Negative thoughts suck up the air, occupy all the space, gaslight our dreams. We wind up manifesting negative thoughts instead – manif*cking instead of manifesting.

When we’re focused on the negative, we lose sight of our victories and what we really want. Here’s how you can change that by curating your thoughts.

How Negative Thoughts Hurt Us

You might have heard the stats: According to science, the average human has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those thoughts, guess how many are inspiring, dreamy, and original?

Not many. This means that you have to know how to stop negative thoughts if you’re ever going to get what you want. And not just think about it. Actually get it.

Turns out, a whopping 80% of our thoughts are not only negative, but 95% of them are also the exact same thoughts as the day before. Let me repeat that. Oh, right, no need. No wonder so many of us have such a hard time imagining our highest ideals or dreams for ourselves, let alone manifesting them! We are much too preoccupied with manif*cking them!

Mani-what-ing them?

If you don’t already know what manifesting is, or don’t know what we mean by manif*cking (primarily, because we made it up during a FB Live), here’s the difference between the two:

Manifest [man-uh-fest]

verb

The act of causing something or bringing a specific result to fruition by thinking, feeling, and acting in accordance with a vision for what we want, no matter what our desire is – from a parking spot, to a lover, to a new job, to a vacation, etc.

vs.

Manif*ck [man-uh-f*ck]

verb

The act of thinking about the future and envisioning being screwed. To project, so much so, that you get yourself into a mood and unconsciously prove your projections, thoughts, theories, beliefs, and mood to be true. So much so, you think you’re having a premonition vs. a manif*ckation.

So according to us, if you’re a human, whether you’re a New Age-y one or not, whether you rolled your eyes at the secret to The Secret’s secret or not, there’s no getting out of your imagination or your inner dialogue.

The Connection Between Our Thoughts and Our Mood Is a Straight Line

A straight line to where, you wonder?

Answer: to the dark side of town.

Ever notice how often, when we’re in a meh mood, we binge eat salad? Or how frequently we feed our anxiety or depression steamed kale? Um, never.

What if, unconsciously, our mind (a.k.a. our inner-dialogue, thoughts, theories, and beliefs) knows that the more it manif*cks with us and our dreams, the more likely it is going to get rewarded. Wait, rewarded? Yep. Think about it: if you’re thinking shitty thoughts and in a bad or dark mood, isn’t your head already plotting its hall pass – whether it’s an extra drink, a smoke, a second helping, a dessert, passing on a party or a workout, or all of the above, etc.?

Our mind has a mind of its own. But what if our mood was simply an indicator of what’s going on in our minds and a byproduct of our thoughts Guess what? It is.

Uh oh is right, and our plight.

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To human: verb

To care to your core. To matter to yourself. To get conscious of what we’re currently unconscious of. To upgrade your operating system.

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Manifesting Is an Inside Job

After twenty plus years of coaching humans, there’s nothing we know to be more useful than trailing our own inner dialogue. If we’re not tracking our own thoughts, how would we know what we’re projecting and unconsciously manif*cking, and potentially proving or causing?

We couldn’t. We wouldn’t. And, subsequently, we don’t.

Mastery over your mind comes from the learned ability to choose what is best for you to think AND feel. To get your own hands back on your life’s remote control and press mute when your mind messes with what matters most to you. Namely, your dreams.

In areas where you’re happy, I promise you, your inner dialogue, thoughts, theories, beliefs, and mood are great and you act accordingly. If you’re excited to see your partner, you bring flowers. If you feel great in your body, you feed it well, you head to the gym, you sign up for a marathon, etc. But in areas where you’re not proud, happy, or inspired, you’re being a bit of a manifarquaad.

[What?!! It’s a Shrek reference, sorta!]

You’re thinking so and so is never going to call you back, or you’ll never find your partner on any of these godforsaken dating sites, or your teen will never turn out okay, or your mother will never {fill in the blank}…and guess what happens? Your actions dance with your thoughts, put you in a mood, and your worst thoughts get proven accurate. None of this helps you learn how to stop negative thoughts.

This is why I have my clients keep a thought log. I have them write down their thoughts 3x a day, not to see IF they have a dark side, but because OF COURSE they do. I have them write their thoughts down in order to see just how much their inner dialogue is running amok and the results it’s actually causing. Because until we confront what our minds are actually doing for a living, we are in the Matrix and we haven’t taken the pill.

Hacking into our inner dialogue is the pill.

Imagine your areas of life are being graded. Once you incriminate your head, you can see that it really wants to get you a C in any area of your life where you’re fearful. Then you can deal with it head on. You can put in the right promises to quiet it and even redirect it, so that ALL of you – your mind, body, and heart – are fighting for the same end goal: your ACTUAL dreams unf*cked, manifested, AND realized.

So, given that you are human, 80% of your thoughts are negative and repetitive. Repeat after me: check your mood. It’s a litmus test for your thoughts. Stop, drop, and roll when you catch yourself manif*cked up.

Love,

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